If you're planning on getting back an ex, you will need to know what the no contact rule after a breakup is and what it can do in helping you to get your ex back.
Even more important is knowing exactly what to do during the no contact rule with an ex.
The only way to ever overcome a fear of rejection is to develop a level of connection in your life that means you don’t care whether you get rejected.
You know she deserves a bigger commitment from you, but you don’t feel like you can give it to her… It slyly creeps in the side door like a 15 year old at am, coming home from a party that he wasn’t supposed to be at in the first place, and before you realise it, it has you in it’s nasty grasp. Because, and you might not realise this, you’re not actually afraid of commitment.
Fear of commitment has ruined more potentially rewarding and fulfilling relationships than the combined total of famine, war, Wrestle-mania, Jersey Shore, Monday Night Football, and her hot best friend*. It’s has simple, easy, and obvious solution once you think about it. The first step is overcoming your fear of commitment is working out what you’re actually afraid of.
You’re afraid of the experience this logical construct will give you. If you commit, if you put that ring on her finger, if you give in, settle down, and lock her in, what’s going to happen? Are you going to be able to travel, to meet new people, spend an entire day in your underwear, and go out drinking whenever you want? Your fear of commitment is a fear of losing your freedom. As with any challenge you face in life, you can’t run away from a fear and hope that it just goes away. Commitment is a logical construct, it’s a mental creation, it’s a future projection you create in your head based on theoretical assumptions, and you’re not afraid of logic. Are you going to be able to do what you want, when you want to? You know she’s going to be on you back, demanding that you take out the rubbish, wear pants, take the 3 month old half eaten pizza off the table and put it in the bin. Your fear of commitment isn’t actually a fear of commitment.A fear of rejection is created by a lack of connection.You can never run away from rejection for long enough to deal with the lack of connection in your life.Stop taking the advice of those who really don't know no contact or those who never even used it to get back an ex.
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