Not to mention the online world can give you a buffer in case the relationship fizzles.“Many men don’t date women in their singles wards just so they can avoid awkward encounters if it doesn’t work out,” Snell says. Online settings can give you that extra boost of confidence.“I actually think I’m better at online dating,” says Chloe Andersen, 33, a New York City resident who’s been online dating off and on for the last seven years.“When I date online I’m confident, whereas in normal single situations I can get insecure and be reduced to a high school junior. I love having a say in who I meet and who I date.”One of the best attributes of online dating is the variety. Below are just a handful of websites LDS singles commonly log on to.· ldssingles.com· eharmony.com· match.com· ldsmingle.com· ldsplanet.com· Simply said: Online dating can work.“Some people think online dating is unnatural,” says James Green, general manager of “Going online opens up possibilities to meet more people.”Need another perk?The type of crowd online dating attracts is typically older and more successful.“This type of dating usually draws in people of the professional world,” says Snell, who has created a series of dating books and DVDs known as “It’s Not You—It’s Your Technique” (itsyourtechnique.com).And pick shots where you actually look, you know, like yourself.“The last thing I want to do is meet someone and have them say I don’t look like my picture,” Andersen says. Try not to post pictures where’s it’s obvious you’ve cropped out an ex-girlfriend. “And it won’t be in a good way.”Exaggerating or misleading people with your profile will get you nowhere.“It is becoming increasingly difficult for LDS people to meet a potential spouse once they’re out of college,” says Alisa Snell, a dating coach and marriage and family therapist in Utah.“You’re just not in front of the masses, which translates to fewer opportunities.”Holly Coleman, 36, can’t argue there.“You get to the point—especially in my age group—when you feel like you’ve met every eligible person in your circles,” says Coleman, who met her husband on e Harmony and married him in 2011.“Members of the Church would be surprised at the shocking number of people who have met their spouses [online].
Good luck with that.“You have to have a photo—it’s your crucial first impression,” says Snell, who met her husband of nine years on
“No one will contact you if there isn’t a photo.”When you do post a picture, post a few.
Here are 20 points—broken up into four categories—that will tell you virtually everything you need to know.
The Pros Where have all the good men (and women) gone?
So in this 2011 world of “Nice to Tweet you,” many LDS singles are initiating their first encounters in a decidedly digital way.
Between demanding schedules of work, school, family, and church, it can be difficult to stop and smell the potential roses.